First of all; Love. In MY opinion you don't love a person after some minutes/hours, not even in days. I mean that love needs to get build up by time. Love is a word you really shouldn't just say here and there, to feel loved back.
Relationships; You should know a little bit about the person you are getting together with, before getting together with him/her. At least their name, and where they live.Not only get together with someone because they look good in a picture, or because you want to feel pretty or loved. Playing with peoples heart like that, is just simply wrong.
Internet relationships; they get my full respect. I admire people who can manage to make the relationship go through a really long distance, and I have been in one myself, BUT internet relationships are just as serious as other relationships and you should really know the person before getting together with him/her, and just because '' oh he/her looked good in one picture'' or something like that.
Now we are getting to a story I have wanted to tell for a while. This happened some months ago, and I know I should been over it by now but my mind just can't seem to let it go.
I met this lovely, cute, and kind boy on the internet and he knew people I knew. He lived kinda close to me ( one and a half hour away). I talked to him a lot for a couple of days, and I soon noticed that he was a bit creepy. He could get very intimate, and ask more or less directly if I could show off for him on cam. Like take my clothes off and masturbate. He asked a lot in detail. Luckily for me, I knew better than doing what he told me, so I said no every time; So to clear this up, I did never show off for him, and I did never do anything sexual with this guy.
I am a person wanting to believe kind things about all people, until I get evidence on the opposite.
I thought like this ''Maybe he will listen to me if I say no if I meet him in real life?'' ''He can't do anything to me if we stay in public all the time?'' So I decided to go and meet him when he asked if I could.
Of course he didn't take no for an answer, and I said ''No, don't do that'' many times during that day.
He pulled me in to a toilet and tried to make me want to have sex with him, which I didn't want at all. This happened several times, until I took earliest bus I could home.
Some days later my friend started to talk to him too, and after they had talked for, how long? Three hours?, I get this text ''Oh my god I love him so much''
I was quick on asking who she meant, and she meant him. Of course she meant him..
I told her my experience with the guy, but she wouldn't listen. I told her exactly what he had told her the last hour, and what he came to tell her, and not least what I came to ask for; sooner or later.
And everything I said was right... But she loved him, and he loved her, right? So that didn't matter anymore.
Their little relationship lasted for about a week or so before she was going to visit him, but wasn't allowed and therefore couldn't go. They broke up, and she regretted everything she had said/shown to him.
I understand that people need to make their own experiences, but in cases like this; gawhd I wish she had listened.
Not because I felt backstabbed for what she did, that has passed, but because I know all too well how it hurts being broken in such vulnerable way, and how it feels like it will lever leave the body.
PLEASE; DON'T TAKE LOVE FOR GRANTED. LOVE IS SOME SERIOUS STUFF WHICH NEEDS TO BE TREATED WELL. EVEN TROUGH DISTANCE. And please, for gods sake, listen if any of your friends tell you anything like this, or worse, don't fool that away.
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